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A World, Please: Rules on possessives sometimes unclear

July 05, 2013|By June Casagrande
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June Casagrande

Internet message boards are cauldrons of casual speech. They’re often riddled with typos and grammatical errors: the one-word “alot,” countless plurals formed with apostrophes as in “cappuccino’s” and “luau’s,” the examples go on. (For the record, those should be “a lot,” “cappuccinos” and “luaus.”)

Normally, no one mentions these errors — even the message board users who obviously know better. So for a mistake to stand out in this sea of anonymous fast-typing and casual slip-ups, it has to be pretty bad. This one was: A user on a travel message board wrote that she was looking forward to “my husband and I’s first trip.”

Bad as that is, I wouldn’t be mentioning it had I not noticed the user name of the person who posted it: EnglishTeacher702.

Now that’s bad.

Of course, we can’t know if she actually was an English teacher. But based on my years of talking to people about grammar, it seems likely. The English majors, English teachers and former English teachers who write to me often know a lot about Shakespeare and Austen and Chaucer.


But most know very little about grammar, which is usually taught in linguistics departments, not English departments.

So when you combine the false confidence that comes from the title “English major” or “English teacher” with an utter lack of grammar training, it can lead to brazen errors like “my husband and I’s first trip” where a more timid user might go for “my husband’s and my first trip” or “my husband and my first trip.”

If those “timid” choices sound better, it’s because they are better. “I” is a subject pronoun. “I made lasagna.” It can never be used as a possessor (more properly: a possessive determiner), as in “Bob loves I’s lasagna.”

So we can say with confidence that Englishteacher702’s choice was wrong. But what’s right? Well, that’s not as easy to answer.

The major style guides contain only limited discussion on what they call “joint possessives” or “shared possessives.”

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